i wish i could talk about being an atheist in …

i wish i could talk about being an atheist in context to being queer without starting a flame war. like, my religious upbringing is why it took so long for me to admit i was queer, it's the root of most of my internalized transphobia and homophobia. ive come out as queer to my parents, but i havent told them im an atheist. and they make me reaffirm 'my' faith if i even imply that i'm nonreligious. (1/2)

(Im gonna answer half and half that way both parts are shared) 

I am one of the few lucky ones who was raised with very little religion(or at best, unstructured religion), but even I struggled with telling my parents about my atheism. In fact, excluding my mom, I didn’t tell them, I brought home a note for them to sign when I was fighting for my right to sit for the pledge- they signed it, we never talked about it. Although every once in a while I get “sly” questions like “Well what do you believe Christmas is about” with the kind of tone that you know the question was directed at you and only you for one reason- your lack of theism.  

The thing about it is one is not worse than the other(well, not exclusively worse) There are some people who can accept atheism without blinking an eye, yet they condem anything even remotely related to LGBTQ+ and there are those who believe that the LGBTQ+ community is entirely normal, but if you’re an atheist you’re clearly not even a person. So depending on what kind of people you are dealing with it may seem from an individuals perspective that one community is more hated than the other(or that one isnt hated at all). Because there is such a shift in experiences and perspectives it definitely is a hard conversation to have…