“I want a man who…”

If this was your response to my post about raising boys and girls the same, I’m going to need you to reevaluate.

If you look at a post about allowing* boys to be gentle, feel emotions, or explore/find themselves without being forced into a role and your response is “I dont want to marry a man like that”, you are selfish.

Men are not here for your pleasure or benefit.

Men are allowed to be themselves.

If you dont like who they are when theyre themselves, then dont marry them! Its not that hard.

They dont have to look, speak, act, or like the things you think they should like. They get to decide. They get to exist the way they are even if it doesnt fit y o u r preferences.

Leave them be.

And they say men use women….

Please dont use this post to make blanket statements at blanket statments. Its a dangerous game.

This post has nothing to do with whether or not women are used by men in any context.

For the record, this post goes both ways. There are definitely men who say “I want a women who…”, but I chose to focus on the one half of the problem I was dealing with at the time.